I am not
your open textbook
your case study
your living soap opera in which you can indulge your love for a gripping story
I am not your cautionary tale
to reassure you that you are doing a better job raising your adoptive children
than my parents did with me
I am not a mirror in which you can reassure yourself that you are better
superior
better adjusted
Don’t thank me for sharing my story
Don’t pat me on the head
Don’t tell me all of the intimate details of how you adopted children but their lives will be so much better than mine
It’s not about you
It’s not about you
it’s not about you
Now do you understand?
Illicit Memories 
I feel the exact same way about most a-parent comments I receive.
I seriously feel like they should pay me for my expertise and wisdom. Except I don’t want their stinking money either. Just leave some people, children and their families in peace would be a start. Find a hobby and interest that isn’t so destructive and deceptive.